{"id":1313,"date":"2014-03-20T15:08:03","date_gmt":"2014-03-20T15:08:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/?p=1313"},"modified":"2014-03-21T13:40:49","modified_gmt":"2014-03-21T13:40:49","slug":"leadership","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/leadership\/","title":{"rendered":"Leadership."},"content":{"rendered":"

I feel like it was about this time last year when I was not a good blogger because work was crazy, school was crazy and I was on the\u00a0 planning committee for our big annual conference in May.\u00a0 All of that is pretty much the same right now, except\u00a0 substitute the conference for a wedding.\u00a0 Kind of similar right? Both have an insane amount of details that a non-detail oriented girl like me have to figure out, which equals stress.<\/p>\n

Additionally, this past Fall I took on a new leadership role in my office which was super exciting.\u00a0 I will be honest and tell you that I really thought not much would change. \u00a0 I would still be able to work with my students, continue on with my current\u00a0 responsibilities and perhaps just have more say on some important decisions that I was not involved in before.<\/p>\n

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I am still very thankful for this change, but it has no doubt been much more of a challenge than I ever expected.\u00a0 My promotion came during a tough year where numbers and morale have been down.\u00a0 So now I have additional responsibilities (not to mention a million more meetings) pulling me in different directions,\u00a0 the pressure of making sure I hit my goals,\u00a0 and am constantly in the middle of my director and my staff during some rocky interpersonal issues.\u00a0 I have never been more thankful of the graduate program I am currently in, it has given me so many tools and perspectives on how to deal with many issues I have encountered and I am sure WILL encounter.<\/p>\n

I often feel that most of my day is simply trying to mediate conflict between staff members.\u00a0 When so and so misses an appointment, I have to address it.\u00a0 When so and so makes a mistake, I have to address it.\u00a0 You get the point.\u00a0 I do wish many of these simple issues were addressed directly, rather than having me be the middle man.\u00a0 But at the same time I get it, I am the “Assistant Director” so it is part of my job to communicate to my staff.\u00a0 But it also means I end up feeling like a bad guy quite often which makes it tough to maintain peer relationships with my colleagues.<\/p>\n

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Time has also become more difficult to balance.\u00a0 I am thankful I cut back on personal training clients when I did, because leaving work at work and not having to come in on weekends very often,\u00a0 is just not my reality anymore.\u00a0 But that is okay.\u00a0 I love my job, I love what I do and this is a good challenge.\u00a0 This is a tough but good learning experience.<\/p>\n

Leadership is a funny thing.\u00a0\u00a0 It seems like such a desirable place to be, but it is not as glamorous as everyone thinks.\u00a0 There are so many tough situations involved and there are times when you have to challenge people against their will.\u00a0 Sometimes you have to suck it up and be okay with the fact that other people will be saying negative things about you. \u00a0 It is not easy.\u00a0 You don’t WANT to upset people, you don’t WANT to make people angry or unhappy…you are just trying to do your job.\u00a0 Often times others do not realize what goes on behind closed doors or why certain decisions are made in the first place, but you still have to respect how those decisions affect them.\u00a0 I know I was naive to many of these things when I first started out.<\/p>\n

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At the end of the day, we just have to do our best.\u00a0 We are all here for the same purpose…students.\u00a0 We have to make the best decisions for the common good but also never forget that every decision (no matter how small)\u00a0 has some kind of consequence on everybody, and to acknowledge that.\u00a0 SAPPY ALERT:\u00a0 It is times like these I am also so thankful for Shain.\u00a0 When I go home and vent about my frustrations he listens… but he\u00a0 never lets me just stay there in that negative state (which sometimes drives me nuts).\u00a0 He challenges me to think differently, to try a variety of approaches and he motivates me to press on and keep the faith.\u00a0 For that I am blessed in this big ole mess \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

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I feel like it was about this time last year when I was not a good blogger because work was crazy, school was crazy and I was on the\u00a0 planning committee for our big annual conference in May.\u00a0 All of that is pretty much the same right now, except\u00a0 substitute the conference for a wedding.\u00a0 Kind of similar right? Both have an insane amount of details that a non-detail oriented girl like me have to figure out, which equals stress. Additionally, this past Fall I took on a new leadership role in my office which was super exciting.\u00a0 I will be honest and tell you that I really thought not much would change. \u00a0 I would still be able to work with my students, continue on with my current\u00a0 responsibilities and perhaps just have more say on some important decisions that I was not involved in before. I am still very thankful for this change, but it has no doubt been much more of a challenge than I ever expected.\u00a0 My promotion came during a tough year where numbers and morale have been down.\u00a0 So now I have additional responsibilities (not to mention a million more meetings) pulling me in different directions,\u00a0 the pressure of making sure I hit my goals,\u00a0 and am constantly in the middle of my director and my staff during some rocky interpersonal issues.\u00a0 I have never been more thankful of the graduate program I am currently in, it has given me so many tools and perspectives on how to deal with many issues I have encountered and I am sure WILL encounter. I often feel that most of my day is simply trying to mediate conflict between staff members.\u00a0 When so and so misses an appointment, I have to address it.\u00a0 When so and so makes a mistake, I have to address it.\u00a0 You get the point.\u00a0 I do wish many of these simple issues were addressed directly, rather than having me be the middle man.\u00a0 But at the same time I get it, I am the “Assistant Director” so it is part of my job to communicate to my staff.\u00a0 But it also means I end up feeling like a bad guy quite often which makes it tough to maintain peer relationships with my colleagues. Time has also become more difficult to balance.\u00a0 I am thankful I cut back on personal training clients when I did, because leaving work at work and not having to come in on weekends very often,\u00a0 is just not my reality anymore.\u00a0 But that is okay.\u00a0 I love my job, I love what I do and this is a good challenge.\u00a0 This is a tough but good learning experience. Leadership is a funny thing.\u00a0\u00a0 It seems like such a desirable place to be, but it is not as glamorous as everyone thinks.\u00a0 There are so many tough situations involved and there are times when you have to challenge people against their will.\u00a0 Sometimes you have to suck it up and be okay with the fact that other people will be saying negative things about you. \u00a0 It is not easy.\u00a0 You don’t WANT to upset people, you don’t WANT to make people angry or unhappy…you are just trying to do your job.\u00a0 Often times others do not realize what goes on behind closed doors or why certain decisions are made in the first place, but you still have to respect how those decisions affect them.\u00a0 I know I was naive to many of these things when I first started out. At the end of the day, we just have to do our best.\u00a0 We are all here for the same purpose…students.\u00a0 We have to make the best decisions for the common good but also never forget that every decision (no matter how small)\u00a0 has some kind of consequence on everybody, and to acknowledge that.\u00a0 SAPPY ALERT:\u00a0 It is times like these I am also so thankful for Shain.\u00a0 When I go home and vent about my frustrations he listens… but he\u00a0 never lets me just stay there in that negative state (which sometimes drives me nuts).\u00a0 He challenges me to think differently, to try a variety of approaches and he motivates me to press on and keep the faith.\u00a0 For that I am blessed in this big ole mess \ud83d\ude09  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1313","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"aioseo_notices":[],"post_mailing_queue_ids":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1313","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1313"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1313\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1321,"href":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1313\/revisions\/1321"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1313"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1313"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.blessedinthemess.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1313"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}